Keys To A Successful Marriage
Making a marriage successful is a task that should be taken seriously by all those, irrespective of whether you have taken your vows a few days ago or are married to your spouse for a long time. Since the romance seems to fizzle away after the first few years, most married couples take each other for granted and stop working towards making it interesting and long lasting. No wonder that we find so many divorce cases around us. In case you are wondering about the secret recipe to keep your marriage successful, here are a few keys to a successful marriage:
Have respect and love for each other
Goethe once famously said - "There is no remedy for love but to love more."
Having respect and love for your spouse is a key ingredient to make your marriage stand the test of time, weather the storms and remain successful. So, try to show interest in your partner’s thoughts, encourage him/her in the endeavors or tasks that need to be completed, consult your partner while making major decisions, and don't let the small things turn into big issues and get in the way between you and your spouse. However, it doesn't mean that you have to agree to everything that your partner tells. Remember that a healthy marriage should have its disagreements and fights. So, don't be afraid to disagree. But at the same time, don't harbor a grudge towards your partner just because he/she doesn't agree to your thoughts or opinions. Perhaps, the quote will sum this up the best - Many marriages would be better if the wife and the husband clearly understood that they are on the same side.
Keep your marriage spicy
Starting from cooing "I love you" into your partner’s ears and giving a surprise hug or kiss to planning a surprise romantic dinner or a joint spa session, you need to bring surprise and innovativeness into your relationship. If you have kids, try to plan some time for just the two of you when you can simply sit and watch that favorite movie you both enjoyed on your first date, or give a relaxing massage to one another. Even donning the chef’s hat and working as a team in the kitchen to rustle up a meal that both of you love to eat can bring back that fading zing into your relationship.
Give space to your spouse
Loving your partner doesn't mean that you should move around and do everything inseparably. Rather, take some time out to go shopping with your friends, cheer up your favorite team on the field, or take the French course that you have been eyeing for long. Giving space to your partner will make your bond stronger as against clinging to him/her.
Last but not the least, love your partner as he/she is. Remember that we all have our own imperfections and you won’t be able to change your partner despite your best efforts. Remember adults don't change easily. So, not trying to do so will help you to avoid a lot of headaches on both sides. You should never let your partner get the idea that he/she is not wanted ‘as is’. So, shower all your love and passion on your partner to show how much you adore and care.
With a little bit of creativity and the zeal to work on your marriage on the lines of the pointers discussed above, your marriage is sure to be successful and transform into a bond that grows stronger with each day.
Frankly, there are no secret keys to a successful marriage - like everything you both need to work hard on it and we are sure you will have a successful marriage.
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